Evenings and nights out in clubs

Vous pouvez autoriser des sorties à votre fille ou votre fils. Mais il est important de fixer des règles pour lui donner un cadre. Ce cadre lui donne une sécurité : règles et limites

Vous pouvez lui faire signer un contrat de sortie :

C’est un contrat entre le jeune et ses deux parents ou l’éducateur. Vous pouvez faire ce contrat dès 16-18 ans. Sur ce contrat, vous écrivez :

  • Les sortes d’alcool qu’il a le droit de boire, et la quantité au maximum
  • Son heure de rentrée et comment il doit rentrer
  • Les punitions : ce qui se passe s’il ne respecte pas ce contrat. Choisissez des punitions que vous pouvez appliquer. Par exemple : moins de sorties, moins d’argent de poche.

Pensez à féliciter votre fille ou votre fils s’il respecte le contrat. Mettez en valeur ses bonnes stratégies.

Vous pouvez autoriser votre jeune de plus de 18 ans à sortir en club ou en boite de nuit. Vous devez savoir que des drogues circulent dans ces soirées. Par exemple, les gens consomment de l’ecstasy, de la MDMA, de la kétamine ou de la cocaïne. Votre fille ou votre fils veut peut-être essayer ces drogues. Il est peut-être influencé par ses amis ou par la personne qui veut lui en vendre.

Il existe des règles de consommation. C’est des règles de savoir-vivre avec la drogue en soirée. Ces règles sont bien respectées par les usagers et usagères.

Transmettez ces conseils de base à votre fille ou à votre fils :

    • Se déplacer en transports publics
    • Savoir à l’avance avec qui et comment il va rentrer à la maison
    • Rester en groupe
    • Boire suffisamment d’eau
    • Ne pas quitter son verre des yeux
    • Aller aux toilettes avec une amie ou un ami de confiance
    • Demander de l’aide aux employés du bar ou aux agents de sécurité en cas de problème

Votre jeune adulte sort en club ou boite de nuit ? Il vous parle de ces drogues ?

Vous voulez mieux connaitre les différentes sortes de drogues, leurs effets et comment on les consomme ?

→ Allez sur le site internet de Nuit blanche ?. C’est un dispositif genevois reconnu en Suisse romande. Son but est de réduire les risques liés aux drogues.

Your teenager tried drugs?

Teenagers want to know themselves and find out who they really are. They are often influenced.

They often try drugs just to do like their friends. Peer pressure lures them into trying. Teenagers are curious; they are looking for new experiences. In these cases, we talk about experimental use.

When drugs are used for pleasure and to have a good time, we talk about recreational use.

Some young people use drugs to forget their problems. You should worry if you realize that your teenager shows the following alarm signs:

  • Interior suffering
  • Bad company
  • Bad grades in school
  • Bad self-esteem
  • Sexual identity issue

 You know with whom they go out. If these friends give them good advice, want the best for them and support them in case of a problem, then you can feel reassured.
If, on the other hand, no one pays attention to him or her, or if someone has done him/her wrong: don’t wait. Open the dialogue with your teenager.

Talking about drugs with your teenager?

Around the age of 12, you can already give simple information.

Around the age of 16, it’s time to discuss drugs openly. One day, your child may encounter recreational drugs.

If you notice:

  • Behaviour changes
  • Bad grades
  • Absences in school
  • Runaways

Then you should say that you are worried. You should take the initiative. Talk about what you see, about what you feel. Talk using the pronoun “I”.

Regarding drugs, ask your teenager: have you ever heard about them? Maybe your friends told you about them, or do you have already tried it? Just as for alcohol, tobacco and cannabis, inform your teenager of the actual risks of drugs. Tell them that drugs are illegal. Explain the rules. Explain what can happen if they try. State clearly what you expect of them regarding consumption.

If it’s too hard to talk with your teenager, make sure they go to a doctor. Ask your doctor (or paediatrician) to talk to them about drugs and alcohol.

Early evening

Young people of age start their evening in a bar, in a park, in a square or at friends’ houses. These moments are very important to them. They help young people build their identity. These moments also meet certain needs: socialization, autonomy, learning and experimentation.

Attention! Studies show that if young people above the age of 18 drink alcohol at home before they leave, they drink more during the evening. Sometimes, they drink twice the amount of alcohol.

In clubs

Starting from the age of 18, certain young people love to go out to bars (or nightclubs). In these places, they discover new feelings, have fun and get loose. They also appreciate bars because they are dark and anonymous. The dance floor allows them to express themselves and have fun.

Generally speaking, they go out in a group that influences the way they’ll spend their evening. The group brings comfort and safety. To experiment pleasure, one must feel comfortable, confident and safe.

In bars or nightclubs, young people relax; they make contact easily, and, for a few hours, they forget everyday life, their studies and the rules imposed. They listen to nowadays music (techno, house, trap, bass, hip-hop) at high volumes. Young people go out in groups, but often dance alone. They are completely inhabited by the music. It’s sometimes a secondary state, a communion between body and mind.

Drugs are present in clubs. People do cocaine, ecstasy or cannabis to dance longer. One feels free, lighter, less tired, with feelings of escaping reality. Certain young people want to try drugs. They are very curious or attracted to this adult world. They want to test their limits and experience new things.

Safety rules during nights out

In the clubs or bars, people sell, exchange, do drugs, also called psychotropic substances. There are consumption rules. These are drug-related codes of conduct to abide by during nights out. These rules are well respected by party amateurs.

Give these basic pieces of advice to your daughter or to your son:

  • Go out using public transportations
  • Plan beforehand with whom and how you are going home
  • Stay in groups
  • Drink enough water
  • Never leave your glass out of sight
  • Go to the bathroom with a trusted friend
  • Ask help from bar employees or security agents in case of problems.